Vaginal Kung Fu… Black Belt in the making ;)

In the beginning of February I discovered the Yoni eggs and Kim Anami.(The Well-F**ked Woman).  Well, I take that back. I actually had the Jade Egg on my wish list last year as I was preparing to meet up with my Frenchie 😉  J/K  but it didn’t push through with it for some reason then I found Kim Anami,  the black belt in  VKF or Vaginal Kung Fu… haha

So from there, I decided to commit to Vaginal Kung Fu. This activity involves stringing a yoni egg (I started with Jade) that has a drilled hole where you can attach a string, a bag, and some extra weights. I filled the bag with something heavy (rice is suggested for beginners.) and inserted the egg into my yoni (vagina) holding the egg in place while I moved my  hips in various motions. 

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Going back to it. Valentine’s day was coming up and since I had no “real”romance in my life  😦  I figured I’d gift myself a set of Yoni eggs. It wasn’t easy to find the perfect one. I had to do some research. I called my friend Karen to check if she had any feedback as I couldn’t make up my mind on which I should get but to my amazement she’s never heard of Yoni eggs before. So I did my research from scratch and finally figured out what I would get for starters.

This is my starter kit that I bought from “genuinejadellc.com“. I was debating because there’s so much info out there. I had to read so many articles before I came to this decision and  yoniegg.com was a very helpful website. And this is a good site to choose the right size.

Set of 3 Yoni Eggs 3 Sizes and 3 Gemstones — Nephrite Jade(M), Rose Quartz(S) and Black Obsidian(L) Drilled; with one Box 55 Yards Unwaxed Dental Floss & User Instructions,  for Pelvic Floor Muscles Massage -YETS4744 ($169.00 – $109.00)

  • Black Obsidian: Grounding. Protection stone. Clearing and shields negative energy. Activates and stimulates Base Chakra. Animal energy. Heals sexual trauma.
  • Nephrite Jade (darker green): Stone of health & vitality. Prosperity. Abundance. Transmutes negative to positive. Fertility. Kidney health.
  • Rose Quartz:  Unconditional Love. Compassion. Peace. Forgiveness. Self Love. Heals the heart Chakra. Connects heart with the Yoni. Amplifying crystal. Attract romantic partner.

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Yoni eggs are not only for women suffering from vaginal looseness. The vast majority of women with a vagina can benefit from a Yoni Egg practice… helping prevent vaginal atrophy, dryness and prolapse.  Doing Yoni egg exercises helps you to isolate your vaginal muscles, increases blood flow and  stirs up the libido.  All of that is just the beginning!  There are many energetic and spiritual benefits to a woman connecting deeply with this most sacred part of her anatomy. 

Adding weight to your vaginal exercise is a trusted age-old practice. Increased lubrication, decreased incontinence, speedy postpartum recovery, more intense orgasms and a deeper connection to your divine feminine energy- every woman should experience the benefits! (Source: The Goddess Box)  It apparently strengthens and tones your yoni, which gives extra sexual pleasure to both partners and brings  yourself into alignment with your our sexual power — the wisdom and strength that comes when you let your yoni lead your life.

So I’ve been doing this on and off for a few weeks now and I wish I can tell you that I can feel the difference. But how do you test it really?

I have yet to find proof that it enhances the sexual experience between myself and my partner as there’s nothing and noone to compare it with. I hope to be able to share it with you sometime in the near future.

WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF USING YONI EGGS?


Using yoni eggs have loads of benefits, including:

  • Increases connection with the Yoni (so many women are “cut off” from the waist down)
  • Increases sensation during sex / self pleasure
  • Revitalises nerve-endings in the vagina
  • Improves overall life-force energy or “chi” in the body
  • Boosts sexual energy levels and awakens the libido
  • Helps train the vagina for childbirth and recover the muscles post-childbirth
  • Increases wetness and lubrication (yes, yes, YES!)
  • Helps to prevent prolapse whereby the pelvic organs collapse into the vagina due to atrophy and non-use.
  • Relieves incontinence (weak bladder/accidentally peeing)
  • Balances hormones by increasing blood flow to the area, which contribute to youthfulness
  • Heightens orgasmic potential and able to access a variety of orgasms
  • Helps to stay grounded in body and brings awareness to the yoni, womb and entire pelvic band
  • Improves overall health, happiness and wellness – physically and spiritually – as the yoni egg focuses on the place in the body with the most Chi (life force energy).

Source: Rosierees.com

 

If you’re interested in purchasing Yoni eggs, here’s a list of  10 Best Yoni Egg Sellers.

http://www.polarjade.ca/shop/yoni-egg.html — why nephrite JADE and how to check authenticity

 

Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile

WARNING: Like any kind of physical activity, it is recommended to consult with your medical professional prior to starting. Please DO NOT use the yoni eggs if it causes any pain or discomfort. Also, it is not recommended if you are pregnant, or using an IUD or similar contraceptives. 

 

 

Yoni Eggs… how to care for your eggs

I was ecstatic when I received my Yoni Eggs in the mail. I couldn’t wait to use it. The first thing I did was to google how I can sterilize it before I insert it in my yoni. I wouldn’t want to end up with an infection which defeats the purpose of all this work. Keep in mind that prior to each use you must prepare your egg(s) both energetically and physically. Always sterilize your egg before each use, and clean after every use.

As I mentioned in my previous post, I’m not quite ready to do some heavy weight lifting just yet  (see Vaginal Kung Fu) but I’ll get there. I don’t see myself lifting chandellier’s, or a surfboard with my yoni like Kim Anami: The Well-F**ked Woman, though. But that would be a feat. 😉  LOL

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I found out that there’s a couple of ways to sterilize it. Though I read somewhere that it’s fine to just wash it with soap and water but according to Dr. Jen Gunter, a San Francisco based OB-gyn, jade is porous and can trap bacteria, increasing the risk of bacterial vaginosis or deadly toxic shock syndrome. There’s only one article that states how this may lead to infection (that I have discovered) but I would not take so much of a risk.

There’s a couple of ways to sterilize the egg, one is to use alcohol (v0dka or brandy) and the other way is using a hot water bath. You may place the yoni egg(s) in a  small, shallow bowl or glass and  douse it with vodka or brandy (NEVER use rubbing alcohol).

Hot Water Bath Instructions: 

  • Boil 2 cups of water (Never boil the egg directly! It may damage the egg.)
  • Pour water in a bowl or glass.
  • Let it cool enough to touch.
  • You may add apple cider vinegar, tea tree oil or lavander oil (optional)
  • Submerge the yoni egg in the water for 10-15 minutes.

NOTE: Do Not put your egg in  BOILING WATER! Do Not MICROWAVE your EGG! NEVER use rubbing alcohol! 

Once you’re done sterilizing your yoni eggs, it’s time to recharge its energy. You may smudge it with sage to cleanse the energy of the egg. Simply light it up, gently blow the flame out and fan the smoke over your egg letting the smoke envelope the yoni egg while you declare positive affirmations and intentions. You may use whatever smudge method you wish, such as palo santo, sweetgrass, essential oil spray. Also, you may set the egg  by the window under direct sunlight or under the full moon to charge it up. You may also give your egg a salt bath. Just submerge your egg in a bowl of saline water (add 2 tsp sea salt) for energetic cleansing of the egg.

Another tip I read somewhere is that you may bury the egg in EARTH. To do it properly, declare positive affirmations and intentions and actually bury it “IN THE EARTH”. When possible, find a peaceful, sunlight enriched spot of one’s yard that you can bless with prayer or, even better, a special ‘garden box’ made of wood, terra cotta or clay (or a simple CLAY pot for convenient mobility). The egg will assimilate the positive energy and thought devoted to its care and respond in like kindness.

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Now you are ready to insert your egg inside your yoni.  It is recommend that you take a bath, light a candle, pamper yourself and massage your breasts and nipples because it helps to prepare your yoni for this process. The massage aids in easy insertion by naturally lubricating the vaginal canal. Relax. Try to get a sense if your body is ready then insert the egg large side up. For some reason I felt comfortable and ready for my yoni egg and somehow skipped all these. My yoni enveloped my egg straight away. Some of you may feel the need to use lubricants to aid in insertion. Make sure you use organically grown fatty plant oils that are naturally soothing, healing and emollient rich such as coconut oil, cacao butter or jojoba oil. Avoid anything synthetic including water-based lubes.

For new users like myself, please check out gemstoneyonieggs.com‘s article “Yoni Egg User Guide: Cleanse, Charge, Use so you can learn how to use and care for your yoni eggs. This site is full of information about yoni eggs and and other things and she sells them on her website, too.

Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile

my Yoni Eggs

Yay! I just received my first Yoni Eggs… now I can test its powers. I am now ready for a spiritual transformation and be in alignment with my sexual power… to develop an intimate and loving relationship with my yoni, my entire body, and ultimately myself. I’m not quite ready to do some heavy weight lifting just yet  (see Vaginal Kung Fu) but I’ll get there. I don’t see myself lifting chandellier’s, or a surfboard with my yoni like Kim Anami: The Well-F**ked Woman, though. But that would be a feat. 😉  LOL

 

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It was pretty challenging for me to pick my first yoni egg(s). I couldn’t decide whether I should get 1, 2 or 3 or which size(s) to get first. And there are so many gemstones to choose from. I read somewhere that you should base it on your intuition and my intuition dictated that I should buy  a 3-pack for starters, 3 different sizes for the 3 different stages and 3 different gemstones. I was sure I was going for a Nephrite Jade which was the most popular and I was pulled by the Rose Quartz and the Black Obsidian. And there’s the thing about drilled and undrilled. Decisions, decisions. Ugh!

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This is what I purchased. A set of 3 Yoni Eggs: 3 Sizes and 3 Gemstones — Nephrite Jade(M), Rose Quartz(S) and Black Obsidian(L) Drilled; with one Box 55 Yards Unwaxed Dental Floss & User Instructions,  for Pelvic Floor Muscles Massage -YETS4744 ($169.00 – $109.00)

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One thing I was sure of is that I wanted to get a medium Nephrite Jade so it didn’t really matter whether the rose quartz or black obsidian was small or large. But here’s what I found out about the sizes (see images below). Plus I also opted for the drilled ones because I want to  keep my options open about putting weights later on. The drilled hole is also there so you may attach a string to  the yoni egg where you can attach weights to the end of the string which is a quirky but fun way to strengthen your pelvic floor. Another reason I picked “drilled” is for peace of mind that I have the option to pull it out with the string if I have to. (It is recommended that you take it out naturally without pulling it from the string.) Do not worry about the yoni egg getting stuck in there… rest assured it won’t happen. With the natural weight of the egg, it will always find its way out, especially when you have relaxed your muscles and give it a little push.

I picked the Nephrite Jade because it’s the most powerful, the most clearing, the traditional one used by women in ancient China, and the best to start with. IIt’s a darker jade, deep green, almost black. The egg will get lighter in color, with use; if you feel like it’s been drained of energy, recharge it in the full moon just the way you would a crystal.

Nephrite jade is associated with cleansing, health, abundance, beauty, longevity, and healing for the heart. Make sure your nephrite jade is  genuine. They usually come with certificates of authenticity.

The second most common yoni egg is Rose Quartz, which is more gentle, and brings in more love energy. But the jade is the most powerfully cleansing; go with the jade first then when you’re more practiced, you can use rose quartz to bring in love and heal wounds, in a gentler way.

 

 

 

For starters, you can use the Large Yoni Egg if you need to strengthen your pelvic floor for any reason or if you’ve given birth to one or more children. Due to its size and weight, it gives the vaginal muscles more resistance so it is a  great option for kegel work. You can pick a  Medium Yoni Egg if your pelvic floor is strong and don’t need much strengthening even after multiple childbirth. This is great for spiritual work and at the same time it maintains pelvic strength and health. If you pick Jade as a gemstone, you can also sleep with it. For advanced users who want to challenge themselves, you can choose  the Small Yoni Egg.  You can use both medium and small yoni eggs in combination to work with two different energies at the same time.

 

Female practice that involved using stone eggs is estimated to be 5000 years old. Eggs carved out of jade were used by empresses and concubines of  the royal palace in China to access sexual power, awaken sensuality and maintain amazing health into their old age. For a very long time this secret practice was only available to members of the royal family, and up until recently – to select Taoist practitioners. (Source: yoniegg.com)

 

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The following info are the ones I gathered from an article by gemstoneyonieggs.com “Yoni Egg Metaphysical Guide” about the properties of the yoni eggs. Thanks to Alalyak  for sharing this site with me and for giving other info and feedback about this process that’s so foreign to me.

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Black Obsidian:

  • Properties: psychic protection, grounding, cleansing, clearing, spirit communication, healing, renewal.
  • Chakra: Root

Black obsidian yoni eggs eliminates negative energies and blockages in oneself and ones environment. It’s like a psychic vacuum cleaner, cleansing the auric field of disharmony, negative attachments, astral “junk,” as well as ones own anger, greed, fear, resentment, etc.

It’s a strong grounding stone stimulating the root chakra and also a strong stone for spiritual protection. In addition, it helps bring one’s own shadow material out of exile. allowing it to be transmuted through the heart. It aids in recalling the exiled bits from the unconscious, even from past lives.

Obsidian yoni eggs are a great aid to healing the body and soul as well as a woman’s womb by releasing past problems from sexual abuse, pregnancy loss, abortion and bad decisions.. Think of it as a sponge soaking up all your traumas, regrets, bad decisions, etc.

Obsidian yoni eggs are great to have in your collection for working with the spirit world and are highly protective with strong metaphysical properties keeping you grounded and safe.

Always do a good purifying cleanse after working with obsidian. 

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Make sure your yoni egg is not fake.

Nephrite Jade:

  • Properties: health, abundance, revitalizing, longevity, joy, victory, success, wealth.
  • Chakra: heart

Nephrite Jade is said to bless whatever it touches, serving mankind across the globe for nearly 7,000 years. Jade was the first stone used internally by women, exclusively to concubines for the emperor and members of the royal circle, as wise, ancient powers believed that health, beauty and longevity could all be achieved through a strong and healthy vagina.

Nephrite Jade is a stone with a heart of healing and a stone for healing the heart. It’s energies are so strong and steady one feels a flow of well-being and balance almost immediately upon touching them. Jade eggs are good stones to wear during sleep, both for their harmonious and nourishing vibrations and for their beneficial effect upon one’s dream life.

Women have reported that Nephrite Jade yoni eggs have had a profound effect on them by infusing their womb space with vibrations of love and joy and claiming the experience was beautifully orgasmic.

Jade Eggs fosters wholesome and steady growth of one’s chi or life-force energies. It is recommended that one wear or carry Jade when hiking, gardening, relaxing, or meditating outdoors, because it draws upon the earth’s life-force and imbues one’s auric field with that energy. Jade Eggs can harmonize and balance a woman’s womb space and heart chakra, aiding in both emotional and physical well being.

Jade yoni eggs can be used to attract abundance and prosperity and to broadcast peace and loving-kindness to all those in one’s surroundings. It’s a stone of abundance and can help to attract wealth and all kinds of prosperity.

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Rose Quartz:

  • Properties: love, gentleness, emotional healing, release of stress, uniting with the divine.
  • Chakra: heart

Rose Quartz yoni eggs is the pure crystal of love – for oneself, one’s partner, children, family, friends, community, the earth, the universe, the divine.

Meditating with a Rose Quartz yoni egg brings an envelope of love around oneself and activates the heart chakra. Healing the heart of it’s wounds and reawakening it’s trust are among Rose Quartz gifts. Her soothing vibrations are a balm to the emotions and they calm and cleanse the entire auric field. She engenders teh release of tension and stress, the dissolution of anger and resentment, the dispelling of fear and suspicion and the rebirth of hope and faith.

Rose Quartz yoni eggs are are one of the crystals of the great mother earth. She links one’s personal heart to the heart of the earth and the heart of the universe. Her love vibrations can penetrate to the cellular level, reprogramming the cells for joy and longevity rather than despair and death. Rose Quartz yoni eggs can stimulate the crown, third eye and throat chakras, bringing them into harmony and unity with the heart. Even the lower chakras respond favorably to the abundance of love energy which flows from the heart under the influence of Rose Quartz.

 

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I just want to share that as soon as I got my eggs I was so ecstatic to use it. I decided to use my Nephrite Jade first and even slept with it. One of my challenges is that I sometimes forget that I have it in me so when I get up from my chair it somehow tries to “escape”.  Just keep in mind that as long as you keep it tight down there it won’t go anywhere. I also forgot that I have my yoni egg in me when I had to use the bathroom in the middle of the night. So watch out for that. Please remember to sterilize your eggs before each use. (Instructions here). I also want to share that I got confused with the term “sleep with your egg” when I read an instruction to get “atttuned” to it. I thought it had to be inside me but then as I was writing a new post about my instructions I found out that I was supposed to sleep with it under my pillow first before I inserted it inside my yoni. LOL

For newbies like myself, please check out gemstoneyonieggs.com‘s article “Yoni Egg User Guide: Cleanse, Charge, Use” so you can learn how to use and care for your yoni eggs. This site is full of information about yoni eggs and and other things and she sells them on her website, too.

Have fun with your yoni eggs! I know I will… haha

 

Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile

 

 

Kim Anami: The Well-F**ked Woman

Very interesting… don’t we all wanna be WF’d?  I mentioned a few posts ago that I discovered Kim Anami when I came across one of her writings that sparked my curiosity. Well, that’s actually an understatement.  I was way more than curious. Wouldn’t you be??? The article was about the  “The 4-hour Orgasm” which opened a whole new world for me because as much as I didn’t really learn much from that as I would have loved to, I discovered new things or terms like Vaginal Kung Fu, how to use the Yoni Eggs, etc. This lead me to check out her Instagram, and cuture shock or not,  her photos were artfully done as she was strutting across the globe whilst hoisting weight from the center of her powerful yoni.

 

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Anyway, after reading her article, I found out I was WF’d after all…  pretty much… 😉    without a partner,  nevertheless. Who says we need a partner to be WF’s? haha

 

Kim Anami is a holistic sex + relationship expert and coach, writer and speaker. Her musings on love, life and sex can be found at  @ KimAnami.com and on her Instagram page where she posts her #thingsiliftwithmyvagina series . She has graced the pages of very popular magazines like Playboy, Elle, Glamour, Marie Claire and national radio and talk shows.

 

In marriages and relationships all over the world, women are suffering from not having enough sex. 

Or the right kind of sex.

If you aren’t tapped into your sexual energy as a woman, you are missing out on a huge source of power and pleasure.

You are deficient without it.

When you get turned on in bed, you get turned on in life.

SEX — the right kind of sex—is the magic bullet for all that ails you

It will transform your life. As it did mine.

~Kim Anami ~

 

Kim is also known as a vaginal weight lifter. When I checked out her Instagram account, it then opened other doors that lead me to enlightenment. Seriously! In fact, I found the feature photo which compelled me to listen to Daniel Vitalis’ “Rewild Yourself” podcast episode on danielvitalis.com with the same title, “The Well Fucked Woman” by  Kim Anami.

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BTW, while I was doing my research about this post, I bumped into this blog, The Pleasure Projectby Kendall and found her very interesting post  “The Well F**ked Woman“. Her post includes some quotes from Kim as well as her own personal commentary. My only comment here is that, I have no clue if I have ever experienced cervical orgasm. How do you even know what kind of orgasm it is? I know I’ve had earth shattering orgasms but I’m not getting all scientific about it… haha  Does it even matter anymore once you hit the goal?

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Let me tell ya, I may not have a partner right now but I sure am well-f**ked… and proud of it… haha

 

I hope you learned something new here. I know I did.

If you want to learn more, Kim runs a series of online courses, which she calls “salons” on sex and relationships. It also contains a host of free videos to get you started! You will learn things like Vaginal Kung Fu, How to Be a Well-F**ked Woman , etc.  Go check out her website… kimanami.com 

 

Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile

 

Vaginal Kung Fu

I have never heard of the term Vaginal Kung Fu until today. Believe it or not, I just came across this article, The 4-hour Orgasm, so I became curious and discovered that the writer, Kim Anami, (a.k.a. The Well-F**ked Woman) is a black belt in this martial art… pun intended. LOL  It is more commonly known as Vaginal Weightlifting, however, it doesn’t ring a bell for me either. I must have lived under a rock all this time. hahaha

What is Vaginal Kung Fu, anyway? It is an ancient Taoist practice that encompasses strength training exercises of pelvic floor muscles by contraction to lift objects that are inserted in the vagina. One of the most common tools used in this activity is called a Yoni Egg or  Jade eggs though there’s a variety of eggs you can choose from and add other products that can hang from it via a string. 

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Kim discovered the ancient Taoist practice of vaginal weight lifting about 15 years ago. She says she tried it and noticed an immediate benefit. According to her, “Vaginal Kung Fu invigorates the vagina so it can function as it’s meant to: a giver of multiple orgasms and life-changing pleasure. Not only did I feel vaginally stronger, but my orgasms were more powerful and pleasurable.” 

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According to Kim, some of the benefits that results from using this practice includes toning of the the pelvic floor and vaginal area thereby eliminating problems of urinary incontinence;  reconnection of a woman to her body and sexual power resulting in better and more powerful orgasms for her and her parner; an increase in libido; emotional and mental healing on different levels esp. for victims of past trauma;  easier childbirth, and last but not least, the ability to shoot Ping-Pong balls out of your lady parts… if you have them. This I would like to see… haha 😉

Here’s Kim’s free video series on Vaginal Kung Fu:  http://kimanami.com/vaginal-kung-fu/

Disclaimer: Kim Anami is not a medical professional. If you have questions, please ask your doctor before trying at home.

For those of you who are interested in beginning a VKF practice, Sofia Sundari has a detailed step by step instruction on her website @ sofiasundari.com

For starters, you may begin with your pouch filled with other gemstones or small pebbles using the dental floss that usually comes with the package. Once you have mastered that then you may move onto heavier weights.

Attach weight using a nylon thread (not dental floss) for heavier weightlifting. Pop the egg inside your yoni then clench your pubococcygeal muscles (the ones you use to hold your pee). Stand still with your legs apart and with your back upright. Start swinging the pouch forwards and backwards by thrusting your pelvis to create a pendulum effect.

Do a set of 10 initially then take a short break by holding onto the weights with your hand. Increase the time and the number of sets/repetition as you gain pubococcygeal  muscle control.

Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile

 

 

NOTE: The type of stone that is recommended whether you’re a beginner or advance level is the Nephrite Jade because it is the strongest stone compared to others used for this activity and it can withstand having weights tied to it.

WARNING: Like any kind of physical activity, it is recommended to consult with your medical professional prior to starting. Please DO NOT use the yoni eggs if it causes any pain or discomfort. Also, it is not recommended if you are pregnant, or using an IUD or similar contraceptives.