So “Long Distance Relationship or Romance?” or just je ne sais quio… one of my girlfriends was arguing with me sometime in October that this was no LDR because we were thousands of miles away from each other and I never went out with him (in Paris). I turned him down and still refuse to see him when he offered to come and visit me here in the US because I’m not quite ready (still warming up). My argument was, it doesn’t matter that there’s that 5,000+ miles between us because a lot of people develop a relationship through the internet and I would like to see how this goes but for now I would like to stay friends and that is a relationship, hence, still an LDR.
I decided to write about what exactly is an LDR… for starters, we all know it stands for “long distance relationship”. I wanted to switch the R to “romance” just because… But what is it exactly? Is it an LDR if we haven’t really placed a “label” on this je ne sais quoi. coz we haven’t really… just coz we don’t want to… not just yet… “no pressure just pleasure” is kinda our thing. Well, I kinda like it for now. Hmmm… doesn’t it sound like something a guy would say? 😉
First I’ll break it down…
LD = Long Distance.
Approximately 5,000+ miles of land and water separates us from each other. And the time difference doesn’t make it any easier.
- a connection, association, or involvement between individuals
- an emotional, romantic. or “passionate attachment between people“
- a romantic or sexual friendship between two people
- the way in which two or more people or things are connected
Romance means…[ romauns, from Old French romans, ultimately from Latin Rōmānicus Roman]… (noun) 1. a love affair, esp an intense and happy but short-lived affair involving young people; 2. love, esp romantic love idealized for its purity or beauty; 3. a spirit of or inclination for adventure, excitement, or mystery; 4. a mysterious, exciting, sentimental, or nostalgic quality, esp one associated with a place.
I can tell you that it’s not going to be easy… even with the abundance of different options in tech communication that may bridge the gap. It takes a lot of work, consistency, commitment and big time TRUST for it to work. I still don’t trust the guy. I think he’s full of shit…. well, sometimes… If he weren’t so HOT! lol I think he’s either married with a wife who lives far from Paris or he has lots of girlfriends or maybe both. 😉 But this is just me being paranoid… he could also just be single and emotionally unavailable.
I found this article on “3 Things that make long distance relationships stronger“… It’s very enlightening… and insightful… as well as this one… “18 little ways you can tell in the first month that your relationship is actually going to last“… I think this should help you decide if it’s worth investing your time and energy on this LDR before it’s too late.
Anyway, I feel that our connection is undeniable… there’s definitely something going on. We have started early on calling each other endearing names. The ambiguity of our “relationship” is quite unsettling at times but the excitement it brings is off the charts. I have never met a man who has blown my mind and rocked my world without even touching the tip of my finger. The high I get from our skype sessions stays with me for weeks on end. Oh-em-gee!!! There is a god!!!
La vie est belle, n’est-ce pas?
Grosses bises ♥ Etoile