Un peu, beaucoup, aveuglément!

After the disastrous experience I had with Zohan, I felt like it left a bad taste in my mouth. It’ll take time before I start dating again. I feel like I lost confidence in myself as far as trusting people… men in particular.

How can I be so blind and gullible?! STOP!!! I’m back in this cycle of being harsh to myself. That is not my affirmation.  It’s not my fault that there are people who are good at being so fake and manipulative… who just want to take advantage of others.  Moving forward, I just have to be smarter and trust my gut.

Around the time we were seeing each other the Universe sent me messages…. plenty actually. But  I chose not to listen. I was so drawn to him for some reason.  (I wrote about it in Puppet Master.) Then the Universe started throwing bricks… still  I was back and forth. Then the Universe intervened one day. Abruptly,  if I may say. Call it Divine intervention. What a relief it was for me. You have no idea. I was totally saved by the bell. Things could’ve made a turn for the worse for me.


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Today I turn a new leaf. The Universe sent me a new message thru Abraham Hicks “Let your soul mate in: Being true to yourself“.  The message… Nothing is happening to you, it is all invited by you. You invited them through your ATTENTION to them. Now you are aware that you are the “Inviter‘ of these things that happen to you. Next move is for you to go on a rampage of SELECTIVE SIFTING that would say “I’m going to find my 10 favorite things about this person/thing/situation that I find myself focused on”. For example, if you ponder on a lover/ relationship, find 10 fave things about that person then you’ll  just focus on things that are positive. This will set the TONE so that only things like your favorite things will come into your vibrational range.



Un peu, beaucoup, aveuglément! (BLIND DATE)


Blind Date (French title: Un peu, beaucoup, aveuglément) is a 2015 French romantic comedy film directed by and starring Clovis Cornillac. The film also stars Mélanie Bernier, Lilou Fogli and Philippe Duquesne. It won the audience award at the 19th annual COLCOA French Film Festival in Los Angeles and the Best First Film award at the 2015 Cabourg Film Festival.   SOURCE: Wiki


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Today, I watched this movie. No, I still haven’t changed my mind about dating anytime soon… though I would be open to a blind date when the time comes. However, I thought, these two people were too scared to go find love but they found each other though separated by a wall. It was pretty odd but it was perfect in their own way. Don’t they say the movies is a reflection of real life?

Now that I am in a state of increased awareness, I’ll use that to my advantage.  I’ll be more conscious of the thoughts that occupy my mind and make a more conscious decision to focus on the 10 favorite things about people or situations so I can always set the tone and keep it that way.


Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile



Size doesn’t matter…

Whilst I was still seeing Zohan, we had some back and forth about penis size. I told him I’ve never dated anyone who bragged about his dick so much. Well, he kept insinuating that I couldn’t handle it. Whatever! Ugh! (I mentioned in a previous post that he does have Big Hands),


Zohan: Have you ever been with a black guy?
Me: No.
Zohan: Um, ok (smile naughty — I think)
Me: What’s up? What does that mean?
Zohan: Nothing. Just asking.
Me: Nope. You were smiling funny.  That meant something. What???
Zohan: Well, ok. Just wanted to say you’re missing out… (chuckles)
Me: Excuse you. Missing out on what? I’ve heard that cliche before, if that’s what you mean and I think it’s overrated. And, I haven’t been with a black guy coz I haven’t met one that I liked.
Zohan: Okay… (smiles and chuckles)
Me: No, really. It’s all the same to me. And I’m color blind.
Zohan: So you’re saying if I were this small (holding his pinky out) that you wouldn’t mind?
Me: Nope. Size doesn’t matter. Fit matters.
Zohan: What does that even mean???
Me: Well, even if you have a big dick if you don’t know how to pleasure a woman,  then what’s the point? Meanwhile, if you have a small to average dick there’s a chance you might try to compensate.
Zohan: rolls his eyes
Me: I win! 🙂


Our conversations were a little tongue in cheek and I enjoyed it… as much as he made me blush… a lot! He didn’t make it sound bad or dirty. I would end up rolling my eyes so much it gave me a headache… lol 🙂   and I think he really thought it was cute… haha


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My argument was, “Size doesn’t matter, fit matters“… then I found this quote that I’ve never heard before… It makes sense. If you think about it, even if it fits but if the captain can’t stay in the port long enough, it’ll piss you off… lol   It does make sense, right?



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We would’ve been a good match. We talked about sex a lot. It was obvious that we both loved sex. Too bad we didn’t get a chance to show each other how mindblowing it would’ve been.

But I have no regrets, with his performance in making out in the car, I didn’t think I missed out on something big. Especially not on the kissing part. If you think about your ex when a guy kisses you, that should be a sign… haha



Long story short, I never gave him a chance to prove that I couldn’t handle his dick. He was a talker and I decided that he didn’t deserve me. I was too good for him.

He has been stalking me coz I gave him a snippet of some of my magic 😉 …  “mind blowing ” stuff indeed. His words, not mine.  I never gave him a chance to show me some of his tricks coz he spent his time yapping when he could’ve acted on it. Obviously, he wasn’t good in the game.


Studies have shown that out of a broad range of penis features, the size is one of the least important things to women. More important to women than the size of their partener’s penis was its cosmetic appearance and the appearance of pubic hair. 

Only women who were easily and frequently able to experience vaginal orgasms showed a significant preference towards men with larger penises. So, for most women, the length of your penis has absolutely no influence on your skills as a lover.

Penises which are too large are a turn off … Men with big penises reading this may have gotten this far and still maintained a happy level of smugness. Well, this might wipe the smile off their faces, because it turns out that flaccid penises over 7.6cm ( 2.9in) were actually ranked as being unattractive by females. So next time you’re in a changing room, peering sideways at the member of the man next to you – remember, comparing yourself to other men isn’t helpful! Penises come in all shapes and sizes, and the length doesn’t have much influence on the pleasure you can give your partner. If you really want to make sure you’re a Casanova in the bedroom; embrace your natural penis size and google ‘CLITORIS’ instead. — (SOURCEWhy Size Doesn’t Matter)

I found this interesting article that you might want to check out… Can a Penis Be Too Big for Your Vagina?


So what do you think?

Does size matter?


Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile



To the left… To the left…

I’m done!

You probably think I’m like the boy who cried wolf but I really am done. I’ve decided that this is it and I have to move on and focus on my priorities. I do not like the person I have become. I feel like I’m second guessing myself, feeling like I’m losing my sanity and being a biatch coz of frustration. My school and work are both affected and I can’t stop thinking and/or talking about him.  This is not what I signed up for. So yes, I am so done with this.

I knew from the get-go that this was not going anywhere but I still took a leap and gave it a chance. I didn’t realize it was going to turn out like this. I should’ve listened to my gut early on. I said I wasn’t going to settle. I am not! It’s not too late.


So why did I give him so many chances? I don’t think I liked him that much. There were so many deal breakers to begin with.

Adam LoDolce broke it down for me…

Let’s talk about introspection and resilience…


A good relationship does not require resiliency.

Sometimes ending something is more courageous than pushing through it.


Take a moment of introspection…  Have you been too resilient when you noticed that the relationship was going South? The women who are ultimately successful in finding love are the ones who are not resilient when they met the wrong guy. They had the courage to stand up, realize that the situation is just wrong and move on with their lives. Every minute you stay in a bad relationship is a minute of your life wasted where you could have been available for the right relationship. ~~~ Adam LoDolce




  • She’s a people pleaser.
  • Fear of the unknown — rather have a current shitty situation than taking a risk.
  • She loves to try to fix people.
  • She finds tumultuous relationships far more exciting than healthy (fulfilling) relationships
  • He’s using leverage and he’s threatening you.


I have decided that I will no longer waste a single minute of my life moping about this. I made a big mistake and I should stop beating myself up.

Lesson learned.

Turn a new leaf.

Move forward.



Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile



Ground Rules (for Dating)


It is important in every relationship that ground rules are established from the very beginning and those clear boundaries are set. This would be a great guide for a person to decide whether to stay and move forward or move on.





I don’t remember how many times I have asked Zohan to leave me alone in the short time we have been dating.  I guess he wasn’t taking me that seriously coz he knew how much I liked him and my heart was really torn. I hate that I was so easily swayed by this extremely charming man. Ugh!!! Again and again, he asks me to stop and give him a chance. I told him if I do decide to do this we’ll have to establish some ground rules. He says, “Bring it on. Give me a list.

I thought about it and ended up with 10 ground rules. These are the basic ingredients in a relationship but I tweaked it a little bit to honor my needs. These are some of the things I listed though I did break it down for him.


1. Trust & Honesty …  transparency and developing a friendship. Giving each other “Space & Privacy”.
2. Integrity … honoring your word. More action less talk.
3. Communication …  keeping an open line of communication, listen attentively and be able to talk to each other respectfully.
4. Compromise… making it “win-win”.
5. Respect… Accept. Don’t judge. Let be. Let grow.
6. Safety & Security… I need to feel safe not just physically but emotionally and  mentally… and I do not want to jeopardize my relationships, my education, my job, or sanity.
7. Dating … making sure we find room for QT  somewhere in our very busy schedules.
8. No Pressure… Just plain unadulterated FUN… respect individual priorities. And fun actually means F-U-N… not s-e-x.
9. Taboo topics… money, religion, politics. SEX with me. (til I’m ready)
10. Ground Zero… be more discrete. Less contact.

I was back and forth about giving him the list. I was waiting for us to have alone time where I can get his undivided attention. At the same time, I think I didn’t do it because deep inside I felt like I didn’t even want to give him the list anymore. I felt it wasn’t worth it anymore coz the butterflies in my tummy were becoming more and more unpleasant.

I’ve been thinking… Do I really want to give him these many chances? What’s the point of this since I make attempts at moving on almost every week? That must tell you something. Right? Listen to your gut, b#tch! Tough love! What’s wrong with you?!!!

But every time we talked he does compromise though… then I go back to square one. 😦  I noticed that he seemed to be the kind of person who tries to test limits. I did give him clear boundaries and I called him out whenever he gets close to crossing it. The good thing is he seems to listen and he does back off a bit so I gave him props for that.



As I mentioned, I started writing this list for Zohan then I kept on tweaking it based on what I feel is important to me for a relationship to keep going… growing… to honor my authentic self. I decided that I had to start trusting myself. I have made enough excuses for him… for me…  I said I won’t settle but it was obvious that as long as I keep seeing him I was settling for less than I deserved. I deserve to be treated better than that.  It’s time that I choose to honor myself and my intuition… to open my eyes, take off those blinders.

So I decided, whether or not I gave it to him, it would be a good list to keep. It might come in handy for the next one that comes along…

and hopefully, I’ll do better…

Moving on…



Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile



Types of A$$holes: How to Spot Them

The Universe lead me to this article (there are no accidents.) ~~~> “12 Types of A**holes: How to Spot Them Before It’s Too Late” by Halle Kaye.  Go check the article coz you’ll definitely learn something.

  1. The guy who ignores your texts or call.
    2. The guy who cheats.
    3. The guy with terrible conflict management skills.
    4. The guy who has no manners or sense of romance.
    5. The guy who’s hot and cold.
    6. The guy who’s lazy.
    7. The guy whose life is just a f*cking mess.
    8. The guy who cares more about his job than you.
    9. The guy who drinks way too much.
    10. The guy who’s not ready to commit.
    11. The guy who’s insecure.
    12. The guy who’s cheap.

Anyway, I was having one of those days, mending my broken heart… trying to get over Zohan. I still think he was just being a normal guy until I read this article, then I realized that he is actually an @$$hole and I was being naive. Ugh!



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Now, I’m trying to analyze Zohan. He’s usually the one who texts or calls. I have accused him of screwing someone else, but is that cheating if he’s not my boyfriend? I do not think he is romantic.  I think he’s both #5 & #6 based on the explanation in the article.  As far as #10 is concerned, I was clear from the get-go that I wasn’t ready for a relationship (heck, I wasn’t ready to date!) and I just wanted to hang out… so he knew and he was fine with that. And he’s definitely a #12. He’s probably the cheapest guy I’ve ever dated. I have to say that I was understanding of his situation because he has several young kids and he was making less than half of my income so money wasn’t an issue until I felt that he was being a douche. I’m pretty reasonable and generous but I won’t let people use me.





This Rule #2 is very important. I was scrolling through Instagram and a post struck me. It was a poem that went something like this… “Let your pain turn into nectar… Never allow someone’s sting to make you bitter.” I have been really sad and I felt like the Universe was speaking to me directly. It is very difficult to get over someone you see on a regular basis. it’s just plain $hitty.. which is why I should never have broken my rule. It is a very basic rule. “Do not $hit where you eat!!!


Fun Fact:

Do you know that “Culus” is the actual Latin word for asshole?


After reading the article, I realized that @$$holes are everywhere and women just refuse to see them for who they are because we enable them. Why? Maybe because we like them too much or we have such low self-esteem that we don’t think we deserve better. I see this a lot around me. I hear women complain about the guys they date and make excuses for them.




Don’t lose hope. There’s still a lot of great guys out there, we just have to learn to trust our instincts and be a better judge of character.  Just keep your eyes open for deal breakers and red flags and know when to bail out. Once you figure out that the guy you’re dating is definitely an @$$hole, find the nearest exit, run like your life depended on it, and don’t look back.



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Caveat: Most guys exhibit some (or all) of these traits to a certain degree, however,  if it gets to a point where it is consistent and after you have called him out he still keeps on engaging in some of these disrespectful behaviours then it’s time to say, “Hasta la vista, baby!”


Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile



My Almost Lover… Adieu…


I started this “thingamajig” with Zohan knowing that it wasn’t going to last. I didn’t have any unrealistic expectations. I accepted that I was going to play second fiddle to his kids and I thought I’ll see how long I could take it. I wasn’t being pessimistic, I was just being realistic and rational.

I knew it was going to hurt but I took the leap of faith and just rolled with it. It was fun while it lasted. I was happy for a short while.


Adieu (Ah d’yew)  Use this rather somber goodbye word only when you know you will never see the person again. Literally, it means “until God,” which gives you a strong clue as to the sense of finality it imparts.

But then, it wasn’t my issue. I was having this feeling in my gut that was getting heavier and heavier. He didn’t like it whenever I tell him to stop acting shady. It started as a joke. But he does act like it. I had a strong feeling that he was lying about something and he was using his kids as an alibi. And the whole time I just really loved how he was such a devoted dad. How gullible was I?!?!?!


One day,  Suddenly everything made so much sense, I realized that I had my blinders on the whole time coz I liked him so much. It happens, y’know. I do not need proof. I know he’s not my boyfriend. I did say I’m not ready for a relationship. I have no right to ask but I want peace of mind and I’m losing it. I’m starting to have a bad taste in my mouth so what’s the point of this? I know we didn’t have an agreement that we were going to be exclusive and technically, we haven’t had sex so if he’s having it somewhere else and he’s not my boyfriend then what does that make us? Am I being unreasonable?


Today I decided that I’m going to stop this craziness… I don’t know how. It’ll be tough coz I ump into him from time to time and it gets awkward whenever it happens…  I already have a script in my head in case he confronts me.

I have been asking you to leave me alone and you won’t. This is the last time I will ask you but it doesn’t really matter coz it’s up to me. I get to decide. I’m done. I do not know the woman in that car the other night… that wasn’t me. I don’t act that way and I don’t allow people to treat me like shit. And I definitely do not know that man I was with. He wasn’t the one I fell for coz I would never fall for anyone who would disrespect me like that. We both agreed about one thing, we just want the fun, no drama. So, I’m moving on and I’m not looking back. 

We had a fight the other night but we made up. However, I decided yesterday that I really want out. I don’t want this negative energy looming over my head. He texted and called me several times over the course of the day… and as much as I was hurting,  it brought a smile to my face knowing that he was thinking about me. Stupid, stupid heart!!!


I do not need this BS in my life. I do not need to be with a man who cannot make me feel secure. I never had to worry about this shit with my ex-husband. And here I am with the first guy I dated right off? Just my luck! Ugh! Doesn’t that tell you something?


Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile



Suddenly everything made so much sense

Women are such intuitive beings. The problem is, we can be so blind when we feel emotionally involved with someone, whether it is love, infatuation or just lust. We tend to rationalize things and be excellent fairy tale writers… don’t you think?




There’s a point where the fine line between reality and fantasy becomes a significantly gray area and for some reason, when we get involved, we lose our common sense. Our intuitive powers get covered and blocked by a cloak of multi-colored flowers and rainbows and unicorns. We see a prince, a superhero and refuse to see the frog with a cape… if that’s the case.


We tend to gradually slip into la la land and allow ourselves to stay there until we slowly feel that there is pain or some kind of discomfort coming our way. The butterflies in our stomach that we used to welcome and embrace excitedly suddenly turns into an uncomfortable fluttering that we wish would go away when we wake up from this slumber.


We start to feel the distortion of our reality. Starting from that small pinch in our hearts that gradually becomes sharper, stronger, lingering. Then we start to see the writings on the wall. It’s been there all along. How can we be so blind?

Choose Me


I believe deep in our minds and hearts that we know the truth but we just can’t admit that we made the wrong choice and we’re already in too deep. Oh my, I guess I’ve just been in enough failed relationships that I just don’t trust myself anymore.


I choose ME this time.

I think I’d rather guard my heart.


Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile




Wrapping it up with Good Vibes

I invited Zohan to lunch. He has no idea that my intention is for this to be this to be our last date. No expectations. Just pure unadulterated fun. I’ll pick up the tab. I’ll drive. I’ll wrap it up with whatever good taste that’s left in my mouth.


I have been getting messages from the Universe that started as a whisper but seems to be getting louder and louder. Now, I really couldn’t ignore it. I can feel it in my gut like a pull getting stronger and stronger and I sometimes feel physically sick.


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I told him that I had something to say and I wish he’d let me finish before he said anything. He nodded.

I said sorry for being mean and for acting disrespectful towards him and I thanked him for still being nice and never disrespecting me in spite of it coz he could have. I actually liked him more now because of that. I explained to him that I didn’t know how to handle how I felt and I was too scared to fall for him… and because I asked him many times to back off and he wasn’t listening, I thought being mean would be the answer but it still didn’t work so I gave up. I also said that I felt that he was too intense and I couldn’t think straight. It was affecting my work and it definitely had affected my school. I just needed space but he wasn’t giving that to me. I told him that I noticed and appreciate that he backed off this past couple of weeks and it helped me concentrate on school and work.

He just listened the whole time. I remember that this is one of the things I liked about him in the beginning. He was a great listener and he has a way of making you feel safe and secure.

Then he says, “I want to thank you for saying all that. It’s really big of you to apologize and admit you’re wrong sometimes. I like that.


And this is where I move on… I think…


Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile





Did I just get Love Bombed? No $hit!!!

I was just in and out of deep thought today… playing back the good times in my head… so short lived… how great it was with Zohan initially, then Boom!!!

I can say that I’m glad I was being sensitive to the signs. I remember watching Oprah years ago and there was a show where she says the universe would throw bricks at us and we’d still not listen. Well, for me it started with maybe some grains of rice, then some small pebbles which I felt I could still ignore but it somehow bothered me already. Then they started getting bigger like small rocks… I didn’t want it to get to be as big as a brick. that’s about as much as I can take at this point. I’m outtie!!!

I initially thought it’s just me the “perfectionist” and I’m trying to be more normal now with realistic expectations.


Anyways,  I felt that it was going south so fast… for my standards at least. I’m sorry but even at my age I just know I’m not willing to settle for certain things. And one of those is flakiness. I told him from the start that I’m big on integrity and I needed him to respect my time. He knew I was very busy with school and there’s so much on my plate and I respect him for being a devoted Dad but something seemed off. Now, I’m going on a tangent.

All of a sudden a thought crossed my mind. How can something that feels so good turn bad so fast? Then the word “Love Bombing” popped up in my head. I’ve never heard of that word until last year and I blogged about it V-day of 2016. I was saying that I’ve never been a victim of it. Please check it out.

Love Bombing , what an interesting concept. Apparently, it is a  “seductive tactic that is used when someone who is manipulative tries to control the relationship with bombs brimming with “love” right from day one”.  I didn’t even know this was a thing until I found this article on elephant journal.  ” It often takes place within whirlwind romances and is usually directed by sociopaths or narcissists. ”

Source: Love Bombing @ myldrwithafrenchman


When Zohan and I started, he seemed pushy and just wanted to see me a lot but the concept or principles of love bombing weren’t so consistent in this case though. He never misleads me with where this was going. I’m sure he could’ve made me believe that he has fallen madly in love with me so quickly just to get in panties but he didn’t do that either. He had windows of opportunity to get in my panties (literally) as I was very vulnerable but I get to stop him… I’m sure he knew he could’ve pushed a little harder and I would’ve given in… I think.



Love bombing is initially carried out through excessive phone calls, text messages, emails, the constant desire to be in close contact whether virtual or physical and the desire to be connected almost every moment of every day.

Those who fall victim to love bombing may be at a vulnerable stage in their life and the love bomber swoops in and naturally seems to fill all the voids. They play close attention to painful emotional wounds, weaknesses and insecurities and will tell their target everything they want to hear and they often express dramatic displays of affection. However, anyone can be taken advantage of and can become a victim, so it is always best to be on guard.

Love bombers are masters at flattery; they will constantly be telling their target how much they adore them, how beautiful they are, how funny, talented, special, precious and any other sweet nothing they can think of. Love bombers will make their partner feel as though they are the only person in the world for them…

 Source: Elephant Journal


I agree I’m pretty vulnerable. And I’m sure he knows that. But I was clear from the beginning.  He knew I haven’t been touched by a man in a long time but I was willing to wait… that I wanted to wait for the right person, the right time and the right place.  I asked him to wait til I’m ready. He said we both know I’m ready but he’ll respect that and that he’ll wait. I don’t know if he’s just strategizing but honestly, I feel that if that’s the only thing he wanted to get from me, he could’ve taken it already but he chose not to. Now, the question is, what else does he want from me?

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       The victim will likely be feeling as though they have met their ideal partner and will be genuinely mirroring back all the words and actions as they believe they are falling in love and that they are so fortunate to have met someone so attentive.

     Throughout every stage the energy-malnourished manipulator is looking for someone to top up their depleted supply. When it moves from devaluation and on to the discard stage, right when the one being manipulated feels they are strong enough to break away, the cycle goes back to the start to the idealization phase and the vicious cycle continues.  This is because the abuser will not be able to bear it if someone dares to walk away from them before they have declared the game over as their ego will be irrevocably dented.

     Narcissists and sociopaths thrive on drama and they don’t care what form it takes. This scenario is repeated and repeated until one or the other can bear no more.

     Idealization, devaluation, discard. In any new, or even current, relationship these are powerful words to be remembered and looked out for. The only way to ensure the end of the game is to break the contact and stick to it.

SourceElephant Journal


I was getting more and more doubtful of his intentions. He was getting flaky initially which really bothered me but I understand that he has lots on his plate, too. However, I have the same and still keep my appointments with him on time. This really bothered me and for me it equates to disrespect. It also shows good character (or lack of it). However, after we talked, he did get better at it and showed that he was trying.

So how do you know if the guy who has you daydreaming at work, and feeling like a teenager again, is a “Love Bomber”?

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If you’ve been love bombed, just remember, you’re not weak… you’re not stupid… you’re human. It is our  humanity  that these narcissists take advantage of. This is the reason why everyone of us may be  victimized by these sociopaths.


       “The sociopath’s ruse is deception upon deception… Since people are objects they are disposable to the sociopath. It’s hard to say, but not all allow their prey to live to tell the tale.” Dr. Deborah Ettel, PhD, Psychology


Here are three helpful articles that I think you should check out if you have the slightest hint that you’re being love bombed.

  1. 20 Characteristics of a Con Man Sociopath
  2. 5 Ways to Disarm a Love Bombing Sociopath
  3. Sociopath and the Confusion of Kindness

       Love bombing works because humans have a natural need to feel good about who we are, and often we can’t fill this need on our own. Sometimes the reason is situational, brought on by an event, like divorce or job loss. … Whatever the source, love bombers are experts at detecting low self-esteem, and exploiting it. 

       The paradox of love bombing is that people who use it aren’t always seeking targets that broadcast insecurity for all to see. On the contrary, the love bomber is also insecure, so to boost their ego, the target must at least seem like a great “catch.” Maybe she’s the beautiful woman, who’s lonely because her beauty intimidates people, etc…        SOURCE: Love Bombing: Are You a Victim?

To wrap this long post up, Nope! I don’t think Zohan loved bombed the Queen (that’s moi) or made any attempts at all. I was just being melodramatic according to my wingman, Goose. He says, “Why do girls do this shit?! You went in head first. Nobody forced you into that. You got what you wanted. All is fair in love and war.” Spoken like a real douche… reads “man”.  I think he was just a flaky player who’s not that good at playing the game. Or maybe I’m a little bit better at playing it… and I thought I got rusty… lol

Anyways, I saw right through him. Maybe he was just being a guy who wanted a warm body. I believe that he was genuinely interested in me. I don’t think that he mislead me in any way. Just like any guy with raging hormones who’s been fantasizing about getting into this chick’s (moi) panties for a while. I think he did what he thought he had to do. At least I haven’t given up the “flag” yet. I do think he may be a Narcissist but don’t most men think they’re God’s gift to women? I’ll have to leave that thought for another post… lol


Zohan could’ve done major damage but he didn’t. I still think he’s a good man… there is some inherent good in people, yes? Or maybe I’m just naive and want to see the good side.

It’s just a case of wrong place, wrong time… and for me, the wrong match.

Now, back to my Frenchie… 🙂


Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile