Deal Breakers?

When contemplating on what kind of guy (or gal) we wanna date or start a relationship with,  we usually begin with a list in mind before we move forward. I actually have a list of qualities of what “Mr. Right” would be like which I have kept in my black book. This list is a set of traits and other things that I would find desirable in a potential mate… my “dealmaker”.  On the other hand, I have a list of things that would definitely not make it to the cut — my “deal breakers”. 

I broke these dealbreakers down into 3 categories, mild, moderate, a Big No-No!
The “Big No-No!” are qualities that would disqualify them automatically regardless of how much I like them and no matter if they have several traits that fall in my deal maker category. Let’s say he’s successful, committed, physically fit and attractive and very much into me but shows some signs of anger issues or being manipulative then that’s a red flag for me — a Big No-No!”… I wouldn’t waste both our times so I gotta move on to the next. The mild and moderate category are some minor quirks that I may be able to accept depending on how much I like him and how much he qualifies as a dealmaker.

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Now, back to the story of my life… 😉
Zohan took me out to dinner last night. He wasn’t late. I kinda was. Well, if you think about it,  we both were but he did say 830-ish and I insisted on making it early. Then we compromised. I’m always on time and I just didn’t feel like waiting this time. He did let me know that he was picking me up by my house and he was already at the meeting spot when I left my crib. At least I wasn’t aggravated. Maybe he knew I was done. Like, this would’ve been the last straw after our argument last night. Already? Yup! There’s really not a lot I’d tolerate at this point.


Then I saw him. I was happy. Hey, he’s wearing that same athletic shirt… again! Ok, not a big deal. He did say he was with the boys and he had to drop them off quickly and get to me. I guess he didn’t have time to change, more so to shower. Ugh! Ok, again no big deal… really? His life is just so hectic, he’s running from one place to another when he’s off work…and most of the time, just like myself, even when I’m off work, I get called to come in to work to troubleshoot or check on something. I guess we understand each other on that part since we’re both in administration but how is this going to work?

Ok, I lied. It really is somewhat of a big deal to me. I take time to prepare for a date to look pretty and smell great and I feel like, well, I’ll just put it this way… hygiene is a very big thing for me, So yeah, I’m a little turned off. But then again, I also give him props for being such a devoted Dad, for being hands on and coaching his boys and all but come on now, take a 5 minute friggin’ shower for your date! What to do! He’s really trying to juggle this. But call me crazy, I kinda feel safe knowing that maybe making out isn’t a big part of his agenda especially after I warned him the last time. For the most part, he’s really kept his hands to himself… I told him I was serious and he’s been behaving. Um, more props? But now it’s pissing me off that I’m wanting more. Yes, I know, I’m giving him mixed signals. I want him to make a move but not too aggressive coz I’m not ready for “that”, yet. MAKE UP YOUR MIND,  LADY!!!



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I think this is where he’s coming from… he’s a little too cocky for my taste but just enough that it still comes off as sexy. I like it that he knows he’s got the physique and the looks… but, oh please, just stop about the dick… I get it, you have a gigantic dick… LOL           Let me be the one to worry if I can handle it or not… if and when that time comes…   😉



Long story short, we had a great time actually. We talked, well, he wanted me to talk. Most of the time he just wants to listen and ask questions about what I like. He usually talks to tease me coz I think he gets a rise when I roll my eyes or something. He laughs at me when I get too serious. I teased him back, too. I kinda hinted that I think he’s a player coz he says I’m the only one and I went “maybe at our place but you could have one at the school and one at the gym“. He says he’s not like that and how can he find time.  I think I kinda believe him.


After dinner, we were going to drive around but then his son called and wanted to be fetched. He needed a ride. Then his other son called and he needed his Dad for something else, too. He says he’ll be there soon. He looks at me and asks me why I got so quiet. I didn’t tell him the truth. I really don’t know how long I can do this…or if I can do this at all.


I got a lot of thinking to do this week.

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Check out some stats…


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And I found this interesting article with stats on Dating Deal Breakers. Go check it out.


Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile



Live a Little


Some time ago, I blogged about why I have avoided relationships (dating) like a plague in “Love is a Risk“.



I’ve started dating Zohan… my “Mr. Right Now“… and I’m already having second thoughts on why I’m even doing it… but, oh the rush!

but then again you think, is it even worth it?





I’m all for waiting for the right guy.

I waited… and waited… but it was coz of my fear of being hurt…

then this guy came along when I least expected it.



My daughter says, “Mom, live a little.” so I took a little leap. Whether I get hurt or not in the process, at least I can say I tried to live a little.

I haven’t given up hope… sometime in the future I would still love to meet my “Mr. Right… my King…” I just hope I’ll be able to come out of this in one piece.


Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile



Burning Need

OMG! You’re amazing…
The way you described it is so intense… I can almost taste it…
I can’t wait to see my Frenchie… yum!


Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile

Erotic Yearnings

capturing my trembling lips,
with such a sensuous kiss,
making my desperate hips,
rub against you, so shameless,
with desire to have you inside,
well aware of that growing heat
of the lust neither can hide,
touches growing indiscreet,
caressing between parted thighs,
sliding underneath my skirt,
to where sodden underwear lies,
your fingers are so expert.

finding the wet heat of my core,
as I buck against your hand,
from burning need I just can’t ignore,
then grasping panties waistband,
tugging them all the way off,
positioned between my thighs,
your hardness against my wet trough,
gazing deeply into eyes,
as breathing becomes ragged,
and need overwhelms everything,
thrusting deep and hurried,
giving me, what I’ve been craving.

such hard pounding of my quim,
moans growing ever urgent,
as you fill me to the brim,
and I’m lost in the moment.
pleasure of your firm thrusting,
stretching as I…

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It’s complicated.

So Zohan and I have been spending more time with each other… and the more Zohan and I know about each other, the more I see how complicated this thing is going to be. It’ll be a little tricky… no a lot tricky, to navigate this thing we’re having.

This FB status can’t be any farther than the truth…

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But this is what I’m going for…

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OMG! Am I ready or what?


Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile





I received a message from Wil (My Dirty Little Secret) on viber today. (I have finally blocked him on Skype last year on account of him obviously stalking me whilst I’m online. ).  It made me smile but I also felt a pinch in my heart. I still miss him. I thought I got over him but I guess not. Why does it have to be complicated? Why do we have to pick? I know, I know… that’s a stupid question. I wouldn’t want someone cheating on me either. I just couldn’t really make up my mind. Couldn’t quite commit to it.


Hi Sweetie… I miss you…

I was just thinking about the good old days we had fun together…

You’re very sweet.

~ Will


He did send me messages over the holidays… Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year, Valentine’s day. I responded to these texts and made it brief. I wanted to make sure he knows that this is not going anywhere and any attempt on his part would be futile.


Yes, those were fun times.  You’re sweet, too.

~ Marie


I mean, think about it, Frenchie and I are still in limbo and here I am blocking someone who professed his love and crossed thousands of miles to see me but I decided to stand him up. Ugh! Story of my life…




And now my Zohan is in the equation…

What am I doing?

Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile


Vaginal Kung Fu… Black Belt in the making ;)

In the beginning of February I discovered the Yoni eggs and Kim Anami.(The Well-F**ked Woman).  Well, I take that back. I actually had the Jade Egg on my wish list last year as I was preparing to meet up with my Frenchie 😉  J/K  but it didn’t push through with it for some reason then I found Kim Anami,  the black belt in  VKF or Vaginal Kung Fu… haha

So from there, I decided to commit to Vaginal Kung Fu. This activity involves stringing a yoni egg (I started with Jade) that has a drilled hole where you can attach a string, a bag, and some extra weights. I filled the bag with something heavy (rice is suggested for beginners.) and inserted the egg into my yoni (vagina) holding the egg in place while I moved my  hips in various motions. 


Going back to it. Valentine’s day was coming up and since I had no “real”romance in my life  😦  I figured I’d gift myself a set of Yoni eggs. It wasn’t easy to find the perfect one. I had to do some research. I called my friend Karen to check if she had any feedback as I couldn’t make up my mind on which I should get but to my amazement she’s never heard of Yoni eggs before. So I did my research from scratch and finally figured out what I would get for starters.

This is my starter kit that I bought from ““. I was debating because there’s so much info out there. I had to read so many articles before I came to this decision and was a very helpful website. And this is a good site to choose the right size.

Set of 3 Yoni Eggs 3 Sizes and 3 Gemstones — Nephrite Jade(M), Rose Quartz(S) and Black Obsidian(L) Drilled; with one Box 55 Yards Unwaxed Dental Floss & User Instructions,  for Pelvic Floor Muscles Massage -YETS4744 ($169.00 – $109.00)

  • Black Obsidian: Grounding. Protection stone. Clearing and shields negative energy. Activates and stimulates Base Chakra. Animal energy. Heals sexual trauma.
  • Nephrite Jade (darker green): Stone of health & vitality. Prosperity. Abundance. Transmutes negative to positive. Fertility. Kidney health.
  • Rose Quartz:  Unconditional Love. Compassion. Peace. Forgiveness. Self Love. Heals the heart Chakra. Connects heart with the Yoni. Amplifying crystal. Attract romantic partner.


Yoni eggs are not only for women suffering from vaginal looseness. The vast majority of women with a vagina can benefit from a Yoni Egg practice… helping prevent vaginal atrophy, dryness and prolapse.  Doing Yoni egg exercises helps you to isolate your vaginal muscles, increases blood flow and  stirs up the libido.  All of that is just the beginning!  There are many energetic and spiritual benefits to a woman connecting deeply with this most sacred part of her anatomy. 

Adding weight to your vaginal exercise is a trusted age-old practice. Increased lubrication, decreased incontinence, speedy postpartum recovery, more intense orgasms and a deeper connection to your divine feminine energy- every woman should experience the benefits! (Source: The Goddess Box)  It apparently strengthens and tones your yoni, which gives extra sexual pleasure to both partners and brings  yourself into alignment with your our sexual power — the wisdom and strength that comes when you let your yoni lead your life.

So I’ve been doing this on and off for a few weeks now and I wish I can tell you that I can feel the difference. But how do you test it really?

I have yet to find proof that it enhances the sexual experience between myself and my partner as there’s nothing and noone to compare it with. I hope to be able to share it with you sometime in the near future.


Using yoni eggs have loads of benefits, including:

  • Increases connection with the Yoni (so many women are “cut off” from the waist down)
  • Increases sensation during sex / self pleasure
  • Revitalises nerve-endings in the vagina
  • Improves overall life-force energy or “chi” in the body
  • Boosts sexual energy levels and awakens the libido
  • Helps train the vagina for childbirth and recover the muscles post-childbirth
  • Increases wetness and lubrication (yes, yes, YES!)
  • Helps to prevent prolapse whereby the pelvic organs collapse into the vagina due to atrophy and non-use.
  • Relieves incontinence (weak bladder/accidentally peeing)
  • Balances hormones by increasing blood flow to the area, which contribute to youthfulness
  • Heightens orgasmic potential and able to access a variety of orgasms
  • Helps to stay grounded in body and brings awareness to the yoni, womb and entire pelvic band
  • Improves overall health, happiness and wellness – physically and spiritually – as the yoni egg focuses on the place in the body with the most Chi (life force energy).



If you’re interested in purchasing Yoni eggs, here’s a list of  10 Best Yoni Egg Sellers. — why nephrite JADE and how to check authenticity


Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile

WARNING: Like any kind of physical activity, it is recommended to consult with your medical professional prior to starting. Please DO NOT use the yoni eggs if it causes any pain or discomfort. Also, it is not recommended if you are pregnant, or using an IUD or similar contraceptives. 



Blog Networking: 5/15/17

Dream Big, Dream Often


I hold the same opinion as Jason over at Harsh Reality that operating a blog on WordPress is just like having a profile on Facebook or Twitter and should be used as such. The idea of interacting in order to get interaction changed my view of blogging forever.  So think about these links as a free opportunity to meet a new friend and expand your blog’s reach.  

(click How to Network Your Blog to view yesterday’s post)

Dayton Arts

Everyones Welcome

Mommy Usage

The Pink Herald’s Blog

Pain Pals

The Nostalgia Diaries

Susan Loves Books

Beauty Beyond Bones

Jessica Marie Baumgartner

Zavi Fashion

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