You Da One

This may sound stupid but about a week ago I got several messages from my Frenchie. About 7 to be exact. Six voice messages and a video message. It was his response to my most recent text — “surprise me“.  He surprised me alright.

I don’t know what he’s thinking now. I normally respond right away just to at least acknowledge it. Say ‘thank you‘ and let him know that I’ll be sending him either a voice message or a video message  in a few days. Yes, we’re that busy.

Why stupid? Coz I still couldn’t get myself to respond to it. I finally managed to type up my response yesterday but I still couldn’t get myself to record and send it to him. I don’t know what’s going on with me but I guess I’m feeling down. Or maybe I’m feeling confused.


He did everything I asked of him and more. I was just thinking these past days that for the more than one year that I have known him, he has been very thoughtful and generous and very sweet. Whatever I ask of him he’d do and more. And when he sends me messages, I feel that he couldn’t trump that then he sends me stuff which blows my mind more than I can imagine. He’s just full of surprises. From sending me collages, to narrations to  doing a play by play or just being silly.

One of the things that touches my heart is when he sends me photos of him with his kids. I know he rarely sees them. I try not to bug him but I made sure from the beginning that he knew it was important to me to see him finding time to visit them as they live far from Paris. And I wanted to see proof. He initially sent me photos of his kids by themselves but that wasn’t good enough for me. I wanted to see that they were spending QT with their dad together in photos. He was actually doing a lot better by summer of last year. I’m so proud of him and it made me really happy whenever he sent me those photos.

Just a week before last he sent me 27 photos, most of them with his kids and a couple of long voice messages (3 and 10 minutes) and a short video clip. This was mind boggling, mind blowing for me (@ Recording Audio) and I thought he couldn’t trump that… then he surprises me with this so soon. So what’s up now?



I have to admit that I’ve been constantly thinking about him over the past few weeks. I can’t get him out of my mind. And the more I think about him, the more I feel like I want to be with him… physically.




I want to fly to Paris. .. like asap! I don’t think I can wait til the Fall. In fact, I just checked the ticket prices as I was typing away. But I felt this way in the past. That’s why I’ve decided to stop communication. I’m trying to practice restraint. This too shall pass. I do not want to be impulsive and end up saying something I might regret. Maybe misleading him in the process. That is one thing I would never want to do.

Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile



Dear Side Chicks

Great post by Makaitah Rogue! Quite interesting and entertaining read.
As much as I want to say that we can do anything and everything to keep our husbands loyal. Boys will be boys. Ugh!




Just watch out for these signs…




Women, sisters… please just know your place. R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
If women had enough self-respect and self-worth then they won’t settle for second best. There should be enough men out there who would treat you the way you deserve. Like the Queen that you are. Once he treats you like a part-time “B”, toss him to the curb. Tough love! Sorry, I know some women will put up with that shit. Not this one.




I was fortunate to not have this problem in the many years I was with my ex. Yes, he was one of those.  And I would not put up with it either.We had an agreement that we won’t cheat on each other no matter what. We stayed together for as long as we possibly could.

I just feel it is gross to have to share my man and I can see myself refraining from any kind of intimate contact once I have confirmation of acts of infidelity.  Without stepping on boundaries let me just say that I love to do things without reservations and that’s where I cross the line.

And I’m not trying to crucify men here coz in certain countries/ cultures, women are more likely to cheat on their spouses…  oh, what has the world come to!





And here’s some random facts to wrap this up… check out “Demography of Adultery“.



Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile


This is a letter to all side chicks in the world and over, from married women. I write in my own capacity as a woman of clarity and directness. This might leave you in damp spirits but serves its purpose to paint over grey areas that you seem to be ignorant of.

Firstly, I would like you to pardon the bluntness that is about to ensue. Beforehand it is necessary to define your job description and position in the lives of many. You are subsidiary to the wife; hence you are BENEATH her. I advise you to calm down and descend from that delusional high horse because you are not better than her. Attentively note: Any sane man will never leave his wife, family and everything he has built, for you. A tied man is not with you because his wife is not good enough or lacking in any way…

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Blogger Recognition Award

I would like to take this opportunity to thank Sakhi of I feel honored and grateful for this recognition.  I am  out of words.


I initially  started this blog as a private one… for my eyes only. It was somewhat more like a journal of sorts to somehow memorialize my romance between my Frenchie and Paris. Then it somehow evolved and I felt like I wanted to share it with others. My goal here is really not to have thousands of followers or be famous or go viral. This is my “happy” place. This is where I go to unwind…to clear my mind. At the same time this is where I go back when I feel lost and I try to find some missing pieces… it makes me feel whole again. It never fails to make me smile. I feel happy that I have started this blog.

If I had to pick two out of many that I would love to share with my blogger friends, one would be to write from your heart and the second would be that I hope the fruits of your posts would be of love, peace, truth, joy and hope.



  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog.

  • Write a post to show your award.

  • Give a brief story of how your blog started.

  • Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers.

  • Select 15 other bloggers you want to give this recognition to.

  • Comment on each blog and let them know you have nominated them & provide the link to the post you created.


These are the 15 bloggers I wish to recognize for their contributions, generosity,  creativity, altruism,  etc. I hope you’ll LIKE, COMMENT and/or FOLLOW some if not all of them.

  1. Dream Big, Dream Often
  2. Messy Streets
  3. MySestina
  4. The Utopia Universe
  5. Grandtrines
  6. Paul Militaru
  7. Belle Papillon 24/7
  8. Harsh Reality 
  9. Brooklyn37
  10. Life as Mrs. A
  11. Kind and Bold
  12. Sound of Silence 
  13. Witty Mummy
  14. Wolford 
  15. Opinionista per Caso



Again, I thank you for you generosity, Sakhi.  More power to you!


Grosses bises  ♥  Etoile